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The young lawyers shunning £180,000 salaries for an easier life

The Telegraph Article: https://www.telegraph.co.uk/business/2025/03/15/young-lawyers-shunning-180000-salaries-easier-life

Here I share the experiences I had as a lawyer with The Telegraph.

Gen Z and millennial solicitors are forgoing big pay packets to prioritise work-life balance.

In her 20s, Melissa Layton worked as a corporate lawyer at Fieldfisher, a City firm that pays newly qualified solicitors £95,000 a year. The job required long hours in the office and midnight finishes were not unusual.

Now 34, Layton has given up on her law career and runs her own wellness start-up, Numinity. The business specialises in “transformative events” including ecstatic dance classes; “extended orgasm” workshops; and psychedelic ceremonies using ayahuasca, a plant-based psychedelic that is illegal in the UK, and bufo, a substance extracted from the poisonous secretions of toads.

“My first impression as a trainee, looking at the partners, was that even the people at the top are under palpable stress,” Layton says of her law career. “It was like looking into the future and seeing where I was going to be in several years’ time.

“The more I looked within myself the more I realised that I’m not sure I do want to be a lawyer,” she adds, speaking from Peru where she is currently in the jungle running an ayahuasca retreat.

Layton is just one of a growing number of young lawyers who have left the profession early in search of an easier life. They are quitting despite the huge salaries on offer. Major City law firms such as Paul Weiss and Gibson Dunn offer newly qualified solicitors starting salaries of up to £180,000 a year, plus bonuses that have potential to add thousands to their pay packets.

For the riches offered, young lawyers are expected to devote much of their lives to the firm. Long hours, weekend work and being on-call even when “off,” is common.

“A lot of people talk about weeks where you work 80 billable hours. You don’t really know what that’s like until you’ve done it and it’s pretty brutal,” says a former solicitor in his 20s who used to work at Slaughter & May, a law firm in London’s prestigious “magic circle”.

A recent influx of hyper-profitable US firms to the UK has made the demands placed on young lawyers even more intense. These firms have even higher expectations than their magic circle counterparts, with many newly-qualified lawyers expected to be on-call for both UK and US hours.

“Being a top lawyer is beyond demanding, it’s constant,” says Christopher Clark, a legal recruiter at Definitum Search. “Gen Z are far more aware of the personal impact and money alone isn’t enough for some to stick it out.”

Law has always been a demanding profession. But whereas previous generations were likely to stick it out until their 40s or 50s to build up their wealth before seeking an easier life, newly-qualified lawyers today are increasingly throwing in the towel in their 20s and 30s.

“Younger generations are more willing to walk away when they feel something isn’t the right fit, without the fear or stigma that may have held previous generations back,” says Qarrar Somji, a partner at Witan Solicitors.

While many of those quitting claim they are doing so because of the unreasonable demands placed on them by bosses, some may question the attitude of the younger generation.

Gibson Dunn, one of the City’s top paying law firms, last month posted a job listing for a “support lawyer” on its M&A team that suggested its Gen Z staff need extra “hand-holding” because of lockdown.

More broadly, younger generations have been accused of avoiding hard work, refusing to come to the office and being unable to accept criticism.

Maximilian Campbell, an ex-City lawyer who now works as a recruiter for law firms in New York, says “resilience” is needed in the legal sector, “as with most demanding professions.”

Resilience is a quality some would argue is in short supply among Gen Z and millennial workers. Research by King’s College London last year found three in five people thought youth mental health problems were linked to a lack of resilience.

Both Sir Tony Blair, the former prime minister, and Mel Stride, the shadow chancellor, have suggested that a rise in self-diagnosed mental health problems may be linked to younger people struggling with normal levels of stress.

Sir Tony said in January: “Life has its ups and downs and everybody experiences those. And you’ve got to be careful of encouraging people to think they’ve got some sort of condition other than simply confronting the challenges of life.”

Some former lawyers can empathise with the younger generations’ struggles. Emilia Yau worked for more than a decade as a corporate lawyer in London, Edinburgh and Sydney before leaving her job to start a psychotherapy practice. She now specialises in counselling for lawyers.

“If you’re going to work and feeling stressed, there’s only so long you can live with that for,” she says of younger people.

Yau’s career was taxing on her.

“It was very demanding. It lends itself to perfectionism. You end up paranoid about sending out an email. It’s very difficult, once you’re in there, to see anything else. You’re working hard, you’re not taking breaks. It ramps up into this snowball effect.”

Yau realised she had to get out when her six-year-old son said the family’s au pair was more like his “mummy” than she was.

It is not just the work-life balance that is putting young people off law, however. The situation is made worse by the high taxes and soaring property prices that have eroded the value of the six-figure pay packets.

One Gen Z former lawyer says: “Working as a lawyer in London is just not that glamorous. The money you earn is enough to let you go out to nice restaurants and live a nice life, but as a newly qualified solicitor you’re still treading water.”

An ex-lawyer at Travers Smith in his 20s says the high tax rates lumped on top earners left some of his colleagues dreading bonus day because of the amounts of money they would be paying back to HMRC.

For Layton, life at Fieldfisher often meant turning up “very late” to social events. “Now I’m always the first to arrive.”

“There are other ways of living life, that was the realisation,” Layton says. “It’s feeling free and spending time with the people that matter to me.”

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Taking space to reflect

Lawcare Article: https://www.lawcare.org.uk/get-information/articles/taking-space-to-reflect/

“Ask yourself who, where, and what makes you feel safe or connected. These may well be things you do already but consider investing in these activities more intentionally and creating a reflective practice – a bit like strengthening your immune system with healthier protections.”

As an ex-city lawyer who provides psychotherapy part of my job is to reflect what someone may be feeling, so they feel seen, understood and heard.

Research suggests that many mental health problems stem from childhood and especially from key relationships in the early years. Due to powerful attachment bonds formed between the child and early caregivers, which are often unconscious, an individual may seek similar and familiar bonds unknowingly whether healthy or otherwise.

Because we are relational beings, we form an idea of who we are through the experience of being seen through the eyes of another. This mirroring back may begin between a parent and child as the child learns who they are and discovers the world around them. If there has not been enough of this mirroring a person may find it harder to know what they think and feel; perhaps they have been dismissed or neglected. Sometimes these attachment bonds and patterns run in families as types of bonding and unsaid family narratives are passed down from one generation to the next. It is through being seen and feeling to be seen differently that these patterns of relating can start to shift.

If a person has had a good enough experience of being seen and heard, of this understanding and reflecting of who they are, they internalise this and are more able to do this for themselves and for someone else.

Therapy can help someone feel like their experiences are valid as the therapist reflects back what they hear and see. In turn this can aid the person to connect with a more authentic sense of self, rather than a self-image which has been negatively impacted due to how they may have been treated by caregivers or others.

From my experience as a lawyer, we can spend much time in our heads. Intelligence and perfection grant a sense of affirmation or self-worth, feeling like a safe or familiar space despite the toll it can take on the body and personal lives.

If prolonged, this kind of relationship with yourself can feel unhealthy, stressful and anxiety provoking or there can be a flattening, emptying, numbing out of feeling that impoverishes the joy and liveliness of living. Sometimes this can present in physical symptoms and illness when the body expresses the register of unconscious and difficult experiences.

Reflection can happen by taking space

You can do this for yourself or with someone else, and it can be an act of self-care. If with someone else who is trusted, they may help you see something of yourself you may not see, even a blind spot.

Creating an environment that feels conducive to taking space can be helpful. Our emotional regulation is tied up with our polyvagal nerve and in times of stress and anxiety, we are much less able to think and feel.

This fight or flight reaction stems from a time when we needed to escape the pursuit of animals, so despite its utility it was only meant to be used for short bursts of time.

By its very nature, this detection of a threat system can then go into overdrive and once on can be hard to switch off, remembering that this is happening could be helpful, so taking space that feels safe instead to calm and rest this nervous system may help.

What makes you feel safe or connected?

Creating and then maintaining a bank of emotional anchors can help in the demanding world of a lawyer. Ask yourself who, where, and what makes you feel safe or connected. These may well be things you do already but consider investing in these activities more intentionally and creating a reflective practice – a bit like strengthening your immune system with healthier protections. This could be anything from taking a walk, being by the sea, being with a friend or even a pet, anything that feels familiar and safe, tune in to yourself and ask does this feel good or not?

 

LawCare:Taking Space to Reflect

If you are finding this hard, please get in touch with LawCare. If you feel the causes of distress may be deeper rooted or want to learn more about taking space to reflect, please get in touch with me.

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Eversheds Sutherland: Alumni spotlight

I was a corporate solicitor at Eversheds Sutherland London office between 2006 and 2008, before leaving law altogether to start a new career as a counsellor. Having worked in high-pressure environments, I have a particular interest in helping lawyers and business professionals overcome stress.
You can read my Alumni spotlight here: https://www.eversheds-sutherland.com/global/en/what/practices/in-house-counsel/yau-emilia-qa.html
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Looking after your well-being: advice from lawyers for lawyers

Advice and practical tips for making it through to the other side of lockdown, and beyond.

Featuring Obelisk consultants Emilia Yau, Julian Harris and Vrinda Sharma.

Click here to read: https://obelisksupport.com/thinking/blog/looking-after-your-well-being-advice-from-lawyers-for-lawyers/

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Boundaries between a mother and daughter

Check out my commentary on calling out boundaries between a mother and daughter in Bored Panda:  https://www.boredpanda.com/take-care-mother-reddit/

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Finding it hard to look after yourself in lockdown?

Read this article to see how it might help you: https://obelisksupport.com/2020/05/14/looking-after-your-well-being-advice-from-lawyers-for-lawyers/

 

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The pressures of trying too hard

Read my piece on the trouble with perfectionism.

 

Does it all seem like too much hard work? Then you might be doing this, and see how you can change it even during lockdown: https://obelisksupport.com/2020/04/30/the-pressures-of-trying-too-hard/